Domestic Violence Divorce - How Abusers Use The System To Invalidate Domestic Violence Survivors

Victims of domestic abuse reach out to theday comes when they awaken to the fact that
system for help in stopping the abuse perpetratedthey have been re-victimized by their abuser's
upon them. This can involve both healthcare andmanipulation of the psychologists and psychiatrists.
law enforcement. Yet, what actually happens,Psychiatric Re-victimization To What End
more often than most people know, is that theseNow you'd think that if the batterer is getting a
so-called "helpers" can be used to perpetuatedivorce and seeking to move on with their lives,
domestic violence "legally" during divorce.then the victim's declared mental health status
In healthcare, it's the psychologists andwould be of no interest to him/her.
psychiatrists. These healthcare providers areWrong...completely wrong!
frequently manipulated by abusers to aid them inBy establishing for "the record" that the domestic
establishing false claims about the domestic abuseviolence survivor is "crazy," the abuser leverages
survivors that they batter and control.their ability to regain and maintain control over the
Psychiatric Diagnosis as Batterer's Club infamily...and most importantly, control over
Domestic Violence Divorcethemselves, or at least control over their public
Almost daily, I am sought out by a domesticimage. Many people will tell you that the legal
violence survivor seeking help from being falselypsychiatrics of a case are nothing more than to
accused of being mentally ill. In many of thesave face for the batterer.
cases, the mental healthcare diagnostics appear toThe abuser seeks to walk away looking good and
be grossly improper.certainly not being an abuser. To this end, they
But that doesn't prevent a court from makingmust make the victim to be
determinations about the accused. In many of"bad"..."wrong"..."crazy." Essentially, the abuser
these cases, the battered mothers (and abusedenlists (directly or indirectly) the healthcare
fathers) are faced with losing custody of and, inprovider to discredit the victim in order to
some cases, even the essential moments ofinvalidate who she/he is and what she/he stands
simple human contact with their children.for with respect to being a domestic abuse
Once judicial decisions are made, remedies can besurvivor.
added on and on, with no regard for the accuracyIf you are a domestic violence survivor and have
of the original foundation underlying the initialbeen threatened with losing custody of your
judicial decision. We have seen domestic violencechildren and the credibility of you mental health
victims prevented from having unsupervised orstatus, seek to understand how batterers
any access to their abused children because of amanipulate healthcare providers to establish false
clinical psychiatric diagnosis.claims. And as you learn about the reality of
The sad thing here is that those directlywhat's before you, find a credible professional to
negatively impacted, like the protective parenthelp you prevent this life-changing destructive legal
and children, are unaware of this ploy during itspsychiatric ploy. The sooner you become
set-up and ultimate execution. Often they goproactive in preventing the establishment of false
along with certain procedures trusting in theirclaims, the easier you can prevent them from
sanity and hoping for justice to prevail. Then, thedefining your life and limiting your liberties.